Trying to figure it all out

I am off today and Rob is at work. I started thinking about books we should get. I was looking for Korean culture books, Korean cookbooks, books for children that deal with adoption, Korean music and then information on buying or creating a lifebook. I know I may be jumping the gun a little on these things but I was thinking, I need to learn some of these things now and not do a crash course.

The problem......I don't know which book or books on Korean culture would do what I want. I want my child to know about their culture and be able to "experience" it as much as a young child in America being raised by Caucasian parents can. I don't want a book that is boring or a tough read or gets to the point where I, myself, looses interest. Of course, everything I find, it seems like it is only available online and not in the store itself.

Then there is the children's books on adoption, I do not want one that uses the words or phrases, your lucky, we are lucky, you were chosen, you are the chosen one, we are blessed, you are blessed. I want a book that puts the word out there for the child, does not stress that because they were adopted that they are "special" any kind of way. I want a book that will open the topic up for discussion or has a positive connotation without being overly positive. I do not want to leave room for my child to ever feel or think if they act up or act out that they will be any less lucky, blessed or chosen.

I was looking for music, why can't just find some nursery rhyms or something that is sung in Korean? I want something that is of my child's birth country that we could both relate to. Something that could be used as a learning tool later on, a stepping stone for learning both languages.

On to the Lifebook, all I find is things that you should include in the lifebook. No samples, no on the first page, or how to start. Then, I see where you can out together a lifebook and they will print and bind it for you for $100 plus dollars.

I guess I am just frustrated that I can't seem to find exactly what I want. You know women get teased a lot about shopping, you never know exactly what you want. Well, this is a rare, off chance that I do and I can't find it!!!

Anyway, if anyone has suggestions, please feel free to share!