I have said this before, I do not believe in coincidences, I believe we are where we are supposed to be when we are are supposed to be there. Rob and I were in Boston this past week and let's just say, I do not plan to go back anytime soon. It was "OK" but since I am not an American History buff, I found it boring and lacking "Fun" things to do.
Anyway, we ducked into a funky little jewelry shop while at Harvard Square. I overheard the clerk telling the other one about a friend of hers that was adopted from Korea. Of course, my ears perk up and I pretend to be admiring this goddy piece of jewelry so that I can ease-drop. She goes on to say that she has a very close friend who was adopted from Korea. This friend was searching for her birthmother but not "really" searching for her. The friend had the birthmother's name and had had it since highschool. Apparently this friend had been talking about this for a while since the clerk looked as though she was in college. So, this friend had gotten bored because the clerk had to work so she went one day to go get lunch. She decided to stop at a Korean/Asian restaurant, she saw an Asian women and started asking her about the food. The woman asked her to sit with her and they chatted for a while and the woman explained some of the food to the friend. So, the woman started asking the friend questions about where she was from and so forth. The friend told the lady Korea and then went on to say that she was a little disappointed that she knew nothing about the food and the culture of Korea. She went on to tell the lady about how she wants to find her birthmother, the lady started asking questions about the info she had and so forth. What I took away from the conversation was that this "stranger" was asking the friend all the right questions and was listening to her and giving the friend things to think about.
So........why I am blogging about this? I learned from this conversation many things. 1) Culture is important, although a child may act uninterested or resistant, later in life, they WILL want to know. 2) This friend sounds like she was searching for something that seemed to be much more than a birthmother but a sense of self. 3) Sometimes a stranger listens more than our own family and friends. 4) I want to prevent my child from feeling this way, I want them to come to me anytime they feel like it, feel that they can be open with me about their feelings and I want to be that "stranger" with all the "right" questions.
Just some food for thought!! Thank you God for allowing me to listen to such a conversation and be able to take many lessons away from it!!
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5 years ago
Yes indeed - food for thought. There are many things I still want to learn about Korean culture, and I think it will be very important to our little one. Good post!
ReplyDeleteoooo... good post! good food for thought! oh, and my blog won't show up on your sidebar anymore since it's private :( the only way to know i've posted something new is to join the Google group i made or to just check my blog.
ReplyDeleteThanks ladies. My hubby and I have kind of struggled with what to teach and how much and this conversation was just like God was telling us that what we want to do and plan to learn with our child is the correct path. It is just AMAZING how, if we listen, the answers just appear. Jenny, I will do that, just check in on your blog!!
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